Anniversary of my father's passing

[gs_silva]

I just realized it's been 5 years since my father died.

I was sitting here thinking, hmm, feels like something significant happened... not sure what it is...

It was that.

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[moth2fic]

I remember - and I was sure it was more recent than that! Hugs.

[gs_silva]

Yup, the math says 5 years!

I was talking to a certain medical professional about my father's manifestation of Alzheimer's vs. my mother's. I think a lot of it had to do with how men and women are socialized differently (in addition to individual temperament).

I'm a very angry person inside, but I suspect that I'll end up being soft like my mother when it's my turn. Because I'm used to presenting as soft.

*hugs*

[ysabetwordsmith]

My mother passed away several years ago, right after Christmas. Hadn't thought of it till now. *sigh*

Re: *hugs*

[gs_silva]

Hugs.

I'm sorry.

A lot of people are in a similar boat. The older we get, the more company we have. Just one more reason why I refuse to be pressured into being jolly for the holidays. So many of us need the extra space.

Re: *hugs*

[ysabetwordsmith]

You have a right to your feelings, whether other people like them or not. Happiness can't be forced.

I linked a meme recently about the irony of the holiday craze at a time of year when nature urges us to be still and rest.

Re: *hugs*

[gs_silva]

I relate to that. In China, the Western holidays were low-key. Christmas is a retail holiday, but the usual festivities, you have to supply yourself, and we made token efforts, it was just perfect.

In Vietnam and Philippines it was tropical all the time, so the time of year had no bearing. That was my favorite. Christmas in Philippines (as long as no deadly typhoons are passing through, although it's likely that one will), is a Christmas I can live for.

Re: *hugs*

[ysabetwordsmith]

>>In China, the Western holidays were low-key. Christmas is a retail holiday, but the usual festivities, you have to supply yourself, and we made token efforts, it was just perfect.<<

Sensible.

I love the pageantry of the dragon-dancers at Chinese New Year.

>>In Vietnam and Philippines it was tropical all the time, so the time of year had no bearing. That was my favorite. Christmas in Philippines (as long as no deadly typhoons are passing through, although it's likely that one will), is a Christmas I can live for.<<

Understandable. I'm often amused by people's attempts to replicate Christmas by decorating palm trees.

You might like AntsCanada. He started out in Canada but now lives in a tropical country. He keeps several massive viviaria with ants, plants, and other creatures. And he simulated a typhoon in one, that was fun to watch.

[heartonsnow]

Last year was 11 years for me and it still hits me every year. It is what love is about i guess.